One of the best leadership lessons I ever learned was while learning how to sail. At first, my grip on the boat’s tiller was tight and stiff, and I moved my arm in staccato, jerky movements in an attempt to steer (control) the boat. My instructor asked me to release my grip, and to let the tiller move inside my hand, noting, “the boat will tell you which way it wants to go.” As soon as I did, I could feel the boat almost surfing on the waves. We’d adjust the sails to a broad-beam reach, and the boat would power through the water. All I had to do was let go, and let the boat and wind work together.